Boken ”I am ACE” av Cody Daigle-Orians som också kallar sig Ace Dad Advice på sociala medier.
Det här med bokklubbar…. En så fin grej! ☺️
Jag startade den här digitala bokklubben för asexuella och aromantiska året då jag själv förstod att jag är aroace och behövde prata med andra. Den är fortfarande igång och i dag hade vi sista samtalet om boken ”I am ACE” av Cody Daigle-Orians. (Rekommenderar varmt att läsa boken!)
Så fina och viktiga samtal. 💜 Vi pratade bla om hur viktigt det är för asexuella och aromantiska att finna mötesplatser för att kunna acceptera sig själva då många ser det som svårt. Boken och övriga budskap från Cody Daigle-Orians (Acedadadvice) handlar mycket om att se sin asexualitet som en tillgång i stället för en börda i sitt liv men också i relationer. Och att finna glädjen över att va ace!
Jag fick mitt sommarschema häromveckan och såg att jag kommer kunna va med på West Pride i år och det känns jätteviktigt och roligt att få gå i paraden där och sprida lite ace-glädje! Kanske ses vi där? 😃🌈
I’m reading the book “I am ACE” by Cody Daigle-Orians. They’re also known as Ace Dad Advice on social media. Their affirming messages meant a great deal to me when I realised I was ace and came out a couple of years ago.
“Part of what’s awesome about embracing your asexuality is the permission to reject dominant cultural norms. You take the first step when you say, “I’m ace.” You reject norms when you say, “I’m ace”. Once you take that leap, the next one is easy. You can reject what a “good s** life” is and redefine it for yourself. You can toss out the old menu and write your own.” – Cody Daigle-Orians “I am ACE”.
Reading Ace Dad’s book and reflecting about this. About redefining everything and begin to write your own menu. It’s not that easy, after all 😌 it takes a lot of strength and I’ve gained a whole lot of respect for other queer people as well, going through this experience.
I’m thinking about how I took that leap a couple of years ago. When I realized that there wasn’t something wrong with me – I’m just ace! I took that leap of coming out. I still think of it often, how I nowadays don’t hesitate but can say openly to people: “I’m asexual. I’m aromantic.” Even though they might not be aware of what those things are and there can be misconceptions I still don’t hesitate, but say it out loud.
For other people, this might not be such a big deal. I’m aware of that and I respect that. But every person has their own kind of challenges. And this has been one of mine.
The biggest part is to redefine everything in your own head, at least it has been for me. It’s not what I say out loud that is the biggest part, it’s how I think of my own life – the perspective I have. But it IS also a big step to put it into words, embrace the identity and come out.
And to say out loud: “I’m asexual”.
Soon I’ll say it even louder in a more public way and I’m sitting here reflecting on it. Am I really ready? What will happen to me when people start having their opinions?
But I know I have to do this for my own sake. For strengthening myself. And I am actually very proud of myself. 😌 I know from my own experience that it’s not the easiest thing to come out as ace and to be a proud ace person. I’m feeling very fragile. But at the same time I’m actually feeling pretty strong.
Quote from the book “I am ACE” by Cody Daigle-Orians, known on social media as Ace Dad Advice
I’m reading “I am ACE” by Cody Daigle-Orians who is also known as Ace Dad Advice on social media.
This chapter is about coming out. They’re very clear in the beginning of the chapter that you don’t owe to anyone to come out. If you choose not to come out to anyone about being asexual or any queer identity that’s totally valid and it’s up to you.
But they also shares his thoughts about why they think it can be very meaningful to take that step and to be open about it. First of all that it can be empowering for yourself but also because it can mean something for others.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot, too. I’m a very open person and I decided very early in my process of understating myself as aroace that I wanted to come out. I was tired of not being able to express myself and my feelings, I guess. I was tired of my perspective being invisible. Something like that.
But I’ve also thought about that it could be important for other people to take that step and understand themselves and maybe think it’d be possible for them too to come out.
The decision to come out is totally up to you and should not be for any other reason than for your own sake, and it’s important to feel safe, that’s what I believe to be true. But if it can make it a little bit more possible for someone else to accept themselves and be open about who they are – that’s a beautiful thing, right?
Please feel free to share your thoughts about this. ☺️ And remember you’re valid whatever you decide to do. Every journey is unique and don’t have to be the same.
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